Life, Death, and Grief with BACII Founder Mangda Sengvanhpheng
In an intimate conversation with Mangda Sengvanhpheng (she/her), founder of BACII, we unravel the deeply personal journey that led to them building a pioneering work supporting folks through end-of-life. We explore Mangda's experiences, the cultural roots of BACII, and the profound impact of facing death and grief.
"When my mother was diagnosed with stage four cancer at the age of 48, I was with her during her final days with little support or guidance. This included caregiving, washing her body, planning her funeral, and all the tasks that come with death," shares Mangda, revealing the emotional catalyst that led to their entry into death doula work.
Driven by curiosity about what more she could do, Mangda embarked on a transformative journey. "I completed the certification program and everything clicked for me," reflects Mangda, highlighting the pivotal moment that set them on a path of understanding and support.
"Unfortunately, most of my experiences with various EOL industries weren’t a positive one. In hindsight, with all the information and knowledge I now have, I most likely could have had a much different experience." This revelation fuels Mangda's commitment to providing more support and guidance, ultimately reducing suffering for individuals and their loved ones.
"BACII is inspired and influenced by Laotian baci ceremonies that originate in Laos, where my family is from. Baci loosely translates to 'blessings,' and these ceremonies can be both elaborate or simple, held at weddings, funerals, family reunions, or departures." This cultural connection forms the foundation for the company's mission of sending blessings, wishing well, honoring lives, and restoring harmony through end-of-life rituals.
Sharing a pivotal moment, Mangda recounts, "The first time I experienced a baci ceremony was at a funeral where there was so much celebration of life. This captures my perspective on the cycles of life and my grief and death work."
In an exploration of societal attitudes towards death, Mangda notes, "Living within a death-avoidant society means we’re lacking acknowledgment, understanding, and even reverence to these topics."
Sharing the duality observed in Eastern and Western perspectives on life and death, Mangda emphasizes, "By being in touch with these topics, they can truly change the way we live and die."
BACII has centered itself on POC grief and loss by hosting and facilitating POC events or one-on-one support from their inception. This intentional approach aims to address the multi-layered difficulties faced by POC individuals, recognizing the impact of systemic oppression on the grieving process.
Contrary to common associations of death and grief with negativity, Mangda sheds light on the transformative potential of BACII's YU:EXIST offering. "YU:EXIST is specifically designed to rebel against fear in a gentle, empowering, and supportive space.” The program aims to alleviate fears and anxieties, allowing participants to explore their lived experiences.
Mangda’s journey and commitment to societal change offers a unique perspective, encouraging individuals to engage in open and supportive discussions surrounding death and grief.
